Will sex improve our relationship?

You can probably guess where this scenario is heading. But what you may not realized is how dramatically sex would change things for teenagers - and not for the better.If you defy a physical law, such as the law of gravity, you suffer the consequences. the same is true if you defy a moral law, such as the one that states,"Abstain from fornication"What are the consequences of disobeying that command? The Bible says:" He that practices fornication is sinning against his own body". Three harmful effects that can come to those who engage in premarital sex. Its include such things as sexually transmitted disease, unwanted pregnancy, or loss of God's favor?Those certainly are devastating consequences that can come to anyone who violates God moral law regarding fornication.


Still, you might be tempted."Nothing will happen to me,' you could reason. After all, isn't everyone having sex? Your peers at school brag about their escapades, and they dont seem to be hurting. Perhaps, like Heather in the opening senario, you even fell that sex will make you and your partners closer. Besides who wants to be ridiculed for being a virgin? Isn't it better to give in?


Not so fast! First of all, not everyone in doing it. True, you may read statisctics indicating that an alarming number of youths are having sex. like other country, by the time they fisnish  high school 2 out of 3 youths are sexually active. But that also means that 1 out of 3-a sizable number-is not.Now, what about those who are? Researches have found that many such youth experience one or more of the following rude awakenings.


1. DISTRESS - Most youths who have engaged in premarital sex sat that they are regretted it afterwards.
2. DISTRUST - After having sex, each partner begins to wonder, "Who else has he/she had sex with?"
3. DISLOYALTY - After having sex, a boy is more likely to dump his girlfriend and move on to someone else.
4. DISILLUSIONMENT - Deep down, a girl wound have preferred someone who would protect her, not use her.


Many boys have said that they would never marry a girl they have sex with. Why? Because they prefer someone who is more chaste! Does that surprise you- perhaps even anger you? If so, whether you are a girl or a boy, remember this: the reality of premarital sex is far different from what is shown in movies and on TV. the entertainment industry glamorize teen sex and makes it look like true love. But don't be naive,! Those who would try to coax you into premarital sex are only looking out for their own interests.


After all, would anyone who truly loves you endanger your physical and emotional well-being?
And would anyone who truly cares for you tempt you to jeopardize your relationship with God.


The fact is, if you give in to premarital sex you are degrading yourself by giving away something of precious value. No wonder so many fell empty  and worthless afterward as if they've carelessly allowed a precious part of themselves to be stolen! Don't let that happen to you. If someone tries to coax you into sex by saying  ' If you love me, you'd do this," firmly reply " If you loved me, you' wont ask !"


Your body is far too valuable to give away. show that you have strength to character to obey God command to abstain from fornication. the if you do marry one day, you can have sex. and you'll be able to enjoy it fully without worries, regrets, and insecurities that are so often the aftermath of premarital sex.

The Darker side of Cyberspace

The anonymity of the Internet makes it a hunting ground for child predators. Youths can unwittingly become ensnared if they give out personal information online or agree to meet a person with whom they have been corresponding. Some people argue that "children face more serious threats of violence or abuse in their own homes or on the playground,". Yet there is something insidious for most parents about sexual provocateurs being able to reach into their homes through a screen and tamper with the innocence of their children.


Some youths have engaged in "cyber- bullying" - relentless online teasing, ostracizing,harassing, or threatening. web sites have been set up purely to humiliate someone, while e-mail,chat rooms, and the like have become conduits for slander.The director of an online safety group believes that up to 80 percent of children between the ages of 10 and 14 have been directly or indirectly affected by cyber-bullying.Granted, bullying is not new. But now rumors,gossip, and slender can travel much farther and infinitely faster. it often gets far nastier too. in some cases,cell phones with a built-in camera have been used to take rude and potentially embarrassing photographs and videos ,perhaps in a school locker room or shower. These images have then been placed on the internet and sent to any number of eager recipients.

Youths Online

If your child has access to the Internet, the above situations may not be as far-fetched as they seem."The Internet provides an unprecedented number and variety of meeting places, from message boards to instant messaging to so-called social networking sites.


Young people have quickly adjusted to life online. Indeed, in 2004 nearly 9 of every 10 people in the United States between the ages of 12 and 17 used the Internet, which is accessible in virtually every corner of the globe. Few people would deny the usefulness of the Internet. but no one should be oblivious to the danger it poses.For instance, many youths are wandering alone in the online neighborhood, and some are creating social networks with people whom you .


Let us take a closer look at what many young people are doing online. this will enable people are doing online. This will enable us to see potential problems, to determine just what our children are looking for, and to see how we can help them satisfy their legitimate needs. It will also help Christian young people meet the challenge of remaining faithful to God during these difficult time.

Today's New Youth: Youth need to talk

Today's New Youth: Youth need to talk: T eenagers can give the appearance of being aloof or secretive. Be assured, though, that they want to talk - yes, to you, their parents -...

Youth's need a sense of identity

A vital part of growing up is the forming of an identity - a set of unique traits that distinguish one child from all others.One of the task as a parents is to inculcate right principles into the hearts of your children.Parents usually choose what a young child will wear from day to day, hoping that he or she will learn good dress sense.


You can help your children to put on the new personality by means of loving discipline and mental- regulating".Then as they grow older and more independent, they may well make a new personality" their choice of "attire" too, seeing it as truly beautiful and appealing.


As parent have you tried to ask yourself: How do my children really feel about the values taught in God's word? and how can I help them? Your goal is not to produce a superficially obedient child. Some children seem to excel t doing whatever they are told, never questioning, arguing, or rebelling. But a child who simply conforms to what you want him to do today may conform to what the worls wants him to do tomorrow.Therefore, train your children to cultivate their "power of reason."


Helping your children meet their need takes an effort. But the rewards are worth it! If your children live by right principles that you have instilled, you will able to say with all your heart that children truly they are.

Youth need to talk

Teenagers can give the appearance of being aloof or secretive. Be assured, though, that they want to talk - yes, to you, their parents - about matters both serious and trivial.

Do not let the demands of life crowd out precious opportunities to talk with your children. If you are experiencing difficulties, it may be time to think hard about the sound Biblical advice:"Make sure the more important things:". What can be more important than your children?Do not hastily conclude that young one would rather go to their peers for advice than to their parents. Clearly as a parents you can play a pivotal role in shaping your children's values and goals.

Parents cannot afford to be casual about their children's associates.Do you know whom your children spend time with, whether face- to - face or otherwise? The Bible says:" Bad companions ruin good character:".There is compelling reason to supervised closely your child's association.

Caring involves more than simply shielding young people from bad influence. Children need the right kind of friends. There is a need to help your children find wholesome associates - including the youths who are setting a fine example in remembering God.

God is particular about the kind of person he befriends, and we should try to imitate him. One of the most valuable life skills you can teach your children - by word and example of choosing wholesome associates.